It’s getting chillier. Boots are coming out of storage. While I’m busy planning my Thanksgiving dinner and trying to remember how to style sweaters, other overachievers are already hanging twinkle lights. Silently, I curse those people unwilling to live in the moment and savor the current, pumpkin-spiced season. Though secretly, all the while, the hypocrite in me starts to jump ahead thinking about the upcoming new year.
Throughout my time health coaching, I’ve noticed that there’s a trend – avoid or put-off all thoughts of an improved life until, about, 10am on Jan 1st. Then, go balls-to-the-wall with unreasonable fitness regimens, strict diets, and self loathing until, roughly, Feb 1st, when inevitably, the sudden self-imposed high demands of new year’s goals beat the spirit. Hopes are abandoned, along with resolutions, due to an increased sense of overwhelm.
And we do this. Every. Single. Year.
If you identify, I have one question. What if, this year, you didn’t do that? What if you stopped, decided to live your life in balance with a focus on finding health, instead of achieving a smaller pant size.
Look, I’m all about goals. I’m even all about new year’s resolutions. But even more important than either of those things, is the fact that you have to have a reasonable plan as to how to get there.
It is very common to feel the stress of the holiday season, not just from the pressure of finding the right gift, but from the temptations that are prevalent. It’s normal to feel anxiety and fear when thinking about the inevitable feasts that will be eaten and sweets that will be available. To wonder how indulging will negatively affect the goals that we’re trying to accomplish.
But the thing is, it doesn’t have to be that way. Stress and worry are unnecessary and simply add to the pressure. You can enjoy the season, eat the cookies, drink the nog, and still come out ahead. You can wake up on January 1st with a clear mind and high self esteem, and even better, it can continue well past February’s traditional resolution failures.
With a stressful season immanent, now is actually one of the best times to commit to a new mindset. But not in the way most usually do. Don’t worry about the ways in which your life will be thrown off kilter in the coming months, instead, dedicate yourself to making the time to take care of yourself amid the mess. Schedule in easy workouts (simple walks will do), pull 3-ingredient recipes for nights you come home and don’t want to cook. Put caps on the number of drinks you’ll have at certain parties and commit to water between each one. Vow to immerse yourself in conversation at holiday gatherings, not just hang by the dessert table. Focus on what you WILL do, not what you won’t. Don’t avoid the cake, have a small slice, move on in life, and celebrate the season.
If you’re concerned about the upcoming months and need help navigating, please reach out! I’ve got a holiday special for the months of November/December that includes email/text support, personalized goals, and holiday cooking ideas. You don’t have to go it alone.
You can definitely enjoy the holiday with no harm done.
All good things,